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From the crime show, NCIS. Gibbs has a rule to never date a co-worker.

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Anyway, this blog is a personal one (no EVs this time). My previous job I happened to like a girl who turned up didn’t like me back. I said some things to her online that I shouldn’t have and being at work has made things incredibly awkward. Not to mention work itself had gotten worse and I wasn’t getting enough hours (well other employees didnt get enough it was difficult times). I didn’t even want to be there because work had gotten too stressful. I felt like I didn’t belong there.

While this was happening I really got into watching NCIS and Rule #12 came up. Never date a co-worker. Sound advice and for those wondering what the other ones are…

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Some are missing, not mentioned or it’s an outdated photo im not sure which because I never kept up on every rule made. Some of them are good actually. So with my new job I kept the same mindset, Rule #12. It’s been working up until recently other co-workers have been trying to get me in a relationship with someone, no one in particular just generally asking me why I haven’t got a woman, wife or kids.

They also couldn’t have asked ata worse time. I have been focused on saving a new car (new 0-3 years, not an older vehicle) and I really want to get a Dodge Challenger, even if it’s a V6 version. But even with a bit of overtime it’s going to take some time to do. I can’t really afford to date right now and I really have no plans of a relationship.

Kids and possibly marriage is out of the question as they’re not cheap. Another thing is im not a romantic, sorry ladies. I feel like buying stuff like a card, flowers and chocolate, having candlelight dinners and long walks on beaches are a bit, outdated and cheesy. Going out to dinner at a greasy hamburger joint and seeing an action movie are my ideas of dating.

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All jokes aside many women are looking for a romance, something im probably capable of but not something I’d like to do and I’ve already made my peace with being single. Bottom line is that relationships are too much guesswork. Sometimes you don’t really know what the other person really wants and I’m not even sure I want a relationship.

Now that I got that out of the way there is a woman i work with, not really though considering the fact we’re on opposite sides of a small plant with a wall as a barrier, but there are times where she is on side I’m on. Mostly I haven’t really thought much of it but I work around one of the many access points to the plant I’m in so a few times she had mentioned, “good morning” before I had lost overtime hours and she started before me. So eh whatever, time goes by and just this last several weeks I caught her looking at me which at first I brushed it off but the most recent 2 was on Thursday. It was almost like she was looking at me like “why won’t you talk to me” but it could also be 200 other things.

The most obvious sign would be is the gossiping of me still being single from the guys. I almost wished I had said, yes I do have a gf so they could leave me alone, but they’ll be asking for photos. And you know, every smartphone has a camera so even if I had to take a photo of my imaginary gf sleeping, that just wouldn’t get them to stop asking for one.

I found a great job with a bunch of employees who are nosy.

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Oh well. Anyway since Thursday I just put up my blinders and focused on the job. All I can do is smile and move on. Not that this female co-worker isn’t attractive but well, I don’t really approach people i don’t know, unless it’s something I need I usually let others approach me. Makes it hard to make friends but as an introvert, it doesn’t really matter. I’m 39 years old and have never been on a date or relationship so at this point, in just used to the idea of being single that the idea of relationships just doesn’t interest me as much as it used to.

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Asking Alexandria’s Danny Worsnop Responded To Claims Of Him Being Rude To Fans

I usually don’t bother with bands such as these, i’m not huge into post-hardcore (or any core related metal for that matter) although i have listened to Asking Alexandria and others on a rare occasion. I’m mostly into melodic death metal, death metal and black metal. But after hearing a fan’s awful experience it bugs me that Danny couldn’t be a bit nicer to his fanbase.

Q: Do you appreciate your fans support & all?

A: Lots of people seem to think I hate our fans and don’t appreciate them at all. I really do. Our fans are awesome and I owe them everything I have. I just have a different way of showing. I’ve never been the people to sit and hang out with a group of people. I like my own space, I like being with just a couple of people that I know in my own little world. I have an antisocial disorder and I like to stay in my comfort zone. People never realize it and assume I’m an asshole.

Q&A with Danny Worsnop regarding the rumours, the stories and his all round bad reputation

I don’t know whether or not this guy realizes but when you have a fairly large fanbase it is disrespectful to push them away. It’s ok if you want to have your space you don’t need to spend hours on end talking to your fans, although it would be nice to get to know some of the people who appreciate and help your success. It’s sort of a two way street and in the end if you simply push them away it won’t help your image any. Some musicians are really cool and laid back people. Take Nergal (Adam) from Behemoth, a somewhat of a satanic band (or perceived as such), the guy seems brutal and mean on stage but i have heard great things about how he treats his fanbase.

I’ve met Jonny Santos from Spineshank (didn’t get to talk to him much mostly said hey and got to shake his hand) and hung out with Fear Factory a bit, i think i talked to one of the drummers (during the Archeype tour) and overall they are really cool laid back people. But upon hearing how Danny treats his fanbase, it’s nearly the opposite from my experiences. Now i’m not saying that Danny should change, although he needs to change on his own. I understand he’s anti-social, but even when i was like that i still wasn’t really.. i’m just really nice and i still am although still very introverted. I wasn’t really gabbing off with the Fear Factory band although, Burton chuckled when there was some metalcore or deathcore band screaming at the top of their lungs. Someone mentioned something about, “i wonder how long he’ll have his vocals for”. Burton was preoccupied with the History or Animal channel. It was definitely a cool experience but at the same time, the band was really cool to all the fans that were flocking in and out (which wasn’t much, but still..).

But as a fan, you gotta prepare yourself to be disappointed. In fact it’s best to not really be so preoccupied with when meeting the band that you gotta hug them or shake their hand or try to be friends with them. In any case don’t set your mind to one thing and one thing only and you won’t be disappointed. Not everyone is as nice as the other person and the whole lesson here is appreciate the bands that do show their appreciation and don’t be too bothered by those who don’t show it.

So is Danny Worsnop disrespectful/rude to fans? In a way yes, his attitude does show and fans can see it. Whether or not he thinks that is really up to him and it’s up to him to change.

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